How to Help Children Establish Friendships
The Importance of Letting Toddlers Create Their Own Social Networks
Aug 31, 2009
As a parent it is vital to give children plenty of chances to practice their natural skills and mix with others.
When a baby is born, he automatically has the desire and need to interact with others and his parents are the first people he will meet and play with. At about eight months old, just when a baby is becoming more mobile, a child will develop attachments to another person. This could be to a friend, relative or by choosing one parent over the other.
Toddlers start to copy each other and play alongside, but not with each other. At this age it is important for parents to stay nearby to offer reassurance. When they reach the age of two, friendships are formed, but children often find each other frustrating. It is also at this age when a child is emotionally ready to start playgroup or nursery.
As they approach three-years-old, children learn to be sympathetic and generous with others. They also develop real friendships. At this particular age it becomes clear that boys are more assertive while girls are more communicative.
As with adults, some toddlers find socialising easier than others and parents are responsible for encouraging and supporting their child.
Parents can help children mix with their peers by demonstrating the qualities they would like the child to have. For example by mixing with others at a toddler group, a parent is helping their child to be sociable and influences their behaviour.
Social Events for Toddlers
- Visit the local park. It's not only the social interaction that will benefit both mum and child, but the fresh air and exercise brings extra benefits.
- Find toddler classes in music, drama or sport.
- Ask friends over for a coffee morning.
- Join the local library for tot's sessions.
- Go swimming.
- If the weather isn't nice, visit an indoor play area.
Play Advice for Parents
- Play with a child, allowing him to choose the game.
- Don't direct the game, allow him to make the rules.
- Give the child praise, not criticism.
- Teach him how to take turns playing and how to share toys.
- Tell them it has been good playing with him. It makes the child feel positive and appreciated.
- Listen and talk to him in order to develop his speech and language skills.
As a parent, it is important to remember that children will choose their own friends. Unfortunately it could mean that some parents have to spend time with people they would not normally socialize with, but it all benefits children and helps them to become balanced adults.
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